Primers are not a good indication of pressure. There's all kinds of variables that can cause a load to appear safe with one primer and overpressure with a different primer. Cup thickness is a big one. Thinner cups will flatten, crater, and blank at lower pressures than thicker cups. Cup hardness is similar, with harder cups flattening, cratering, and blanking at higher pressure than soft cups. The fit between the firing pin and bolt face has a big impact too. Guns with a sloppy fit, as is common with Remington 700s, will crater and blank primers at lower pressures especially with thin or soft primer cups. Some firearms don't maintain pressure on the firing pin after the primer is ignited, which will cause them to crater or blank at lower pressure.
One extreme example is my Freedom Arms 2008 handgun. The hammer rebounds immediately after igniting the primer, which results in the primer being fully unsupported. With CCI 400 primers and a starting load of StaBall 6.5 under 140 grain bullets in 6.5 Creedmoor it would blank primers. With 41s, 450, and 200s (200s require different brass as they're LRPs) I can exceed book max with mild cratering and observe no cratering until I hit about the mid point of the listed data.
As SRP 308 and 6.5 Creedmoor have become more common lots of people have discovered issue with loads that should be perfectly safe when using standard SRPs like 400s in mass produced rifles. Switching to primers with thicker cups like 450s resolves the issue for most people. It tends to be less of an issue with custom actions that are made with tighter tolerances.
Ejector swipes are similar, as different companies use brass of different hardnesses. Heavy bolt lift usually doesn't show up until you're way over pressure.
Velocity is one of the best measurements of pressure you can get without specialized equipment. If you're seeing significantly higher velocity than expected for your load with a particular barrel length you should probably tone it down. Case head expansion is commonly used as a pressure metric, but is only loosely correlated to pressure. If you're really worried about it a strain gauge is the way to go.