" Hitting a small deer at say 50 yds with an ABLR (very soft) at top velocity would not be good."
They are very good for us, they do not run off. My family uses the heavy for caliber LRAB and SST on smallish deer and hogs, no problems. 168 and 175g LRAB in 7 Mags, 154 SST in the 7 mag, we considered the 162 SST too tough, 95g SST in the 243 Win, and 140g SST in the various 6.5's.
I've learned from incorrectly using SST bullets before. Vaporized lead is impossible to remove from meat, not to mention any bullet fragments or separation issues at this distance
Sound like you have been reading way too much, right up there with Lead-Free bullets will save the California Condors.
My brothers, uncles, dad, cousins, and nephews are all serious hunters with one uncle who is a taxidermist and another who runs a deer processing unit. None of them have ever commented about finding bullet fragments in their deer meat, but I give you that it is an extreme possibility. A petal off of a copper bullet may be a worst-case scenario.
Our limit on deer this year is 10, used to be 15(no check stations, honor system). Our Cousin in Ga has a farm with a depredation permit, we pulled a car hauler with a 21 cubic foot freezer on it, for hunting for two weeks during the Rut.
Just about all we have shot has been Nosler ballistic tips, Hornady Interlocks, Hornady SSTs, Sierra Game King and Pro Hunters, SST, Berger VLD and Classic Hunting bullets, and some partitions and Swift Sirocco.
Two friends went to Africa on Safari for the 6 Plains game. They both carried Weatherby Mark 5s in 7 STW with 162 SST loaded to a muzzle velocity of 3150 fps, not even a hot load. All their game, including Eland and Kudu, hit the ground where they were standing. The PH wrote an article about how effective this bullet/velocity was on these very large animals.
If you want to shoot a copper bullet, consider a Hammer bullet. 450 yards is my limit on TTSX bullets, jeez, I hate to see deer running like their tail is on fire!