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<blockquote data-quote="XSIVSPD" data-source="post: 1906098" data-attributes="member: 98308"><p>Wow, there's a lot of really crap advice here. You know her, we don't. "do it and don't tell her" or "do it and don't care" are not good advice. My wife is very strong willed, but we do respect each other and understand that while do have many of the same hobbies we are not the same people and different things are important to each of us. I've always been able to amicably resolve trying things that I want to try even when she is opposid to them as long as there's no real risk to myself and/or our relationship. She does a lot of things that I do t care to do, but I support and facilitate that and she's almost always (eventually) willing to support and help facilitate the thi gs I want to do. Given the short time line before getting tags I don't know if that'd be possible before buying them, but you can always buy the tags and not go if you can't get it worked out. If it's something that's important to/for you to do, and it doesn't harm her she might just need reassurance. She likes you right? She likes your personality and what you provide into the relationship right? Maybe she just needs to be reassured that you can go and hunt and you'll still come back as the same person. Your personality doesn't change every time you squash a bug does it? It doesn't change when you have to put a pet down (other than being sad for a while) does it? There's no reason that hunting and harvesting an animal should be any different. I look at it as picking up groceries while I'm camping in the woods. If she eats meat, an animal died to provide that, this way you know exactly where it came from and that it was healthy and free of all the junk that gets pumped into farmed meat.</p><p></p><p>If it were me, I'd try to explain to her that it's important to you, and you'll have limited chances to do it with the help that this coworker is willing to give. You may never do it again, but then at least you'll know it wasn't for you. If you do enjoy it and want to keep hunting you can talk to her about that after the first time. But either way, you'll still be the person that you currently are when you come back home. </p><p></p><p>One of the things that I DO deal with that's similar (my wife likes to hunt) is her comparing me, both subconsciously and consciously to her abusive father. It's made parts of my life pretty difficult, but I live her and she's worth it. When this comes up it's usually resolved by sitting down, have a real, calm, rational conversation about it. Once she realizes that I am not, and never will be, like her father the conflict goes away most of the time. </p><p></p><p>I've only been married for 6 years, so I do t have the insight that a lot of you do, but I feel like my wife and I have a good relationship despite both of our shortcomings. </p><p></p><p>If she doesn't respect you and does nothing but try to control your life, then there are much deeper issues that might call for more professional help than a forum can give you. </p><p></p><p></p><p>In the end, you know her, we don't. You will know the best way to talk to her. You guys married for a reason right? Maybe she needs to be reminded why she married you, and not somone like her father or uncles. </p><p></p><p>You know her best, don't listen to any of us. All we can share are outside perspectives. And the ones that are disrespectful don't even merit consideration.</p><p></p><p>I hope your able to work it out and get out there. I grew up in South Florida and the only "hunting" there was in my area was getting rid of racoon infestations. I moved to Alaska and took my first big game (a good sized caribou) a couple years ago. It's a lot of work (less for deer at least lol) but extremely rewarding. Everytime we eat it we remembered things from the hunt. Every time we shared meals of it with friends it would spark conversations. It was great.</p><p></p><p></p><p>P. S. </p><p></p><p>If she likes Indian food, try making some venison that way. Indian food deals with a lot of goat and lamb which can be pretty gamey. The spices and things that they use really cut the gameyness of the meet, and the long simmer times keep it from becoming tough. My wife doesn't care for caribou, but really likes it in Indian food. She absolutely loves moose in almost any form though</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="XSIVSPD, post: 1906098, member: 98308"] Wow, there's a lot of really crap advice here. You know her, we don't. "do it and don't tell her" or "do it and don't care" are not good advice. My wife is very strong willed, but we do respect each other and understand that while do have many of the same hobbies we are not the same people and different things are important to each of us. I've always been able to amicably resolve trying things that I want to try even when she is opposid to them as long as there's no real risk to myself and/or our relationship. She does a lot of things that I do t care to do, but I support and facilitate that and she's almost always (eventually) willing to support and help facilitate the thi gs I want to do. Given the short time line before getting tags I don't know if that'd be possible before buying them, but you can always buy the tags and not go if you can't get it worked out. If it's something that's important to/for you to do, and it doesn't harm her she might just need reassurance. She likes you right? She likes your personality and what you provide into the relationship right? Maybe she just needs to be reassured that you can go and hunt and you'll still come back as the same person. Your personality doesn't change every time you squash a bug does it? It doesn't change when you have to put a pet down (other than being sad for a while) does it? There's no reason that hunting and harvesting an animal should be any different. I look at it as picking up groceries while I'm camping in the woods. If she eats meat, an animal died to provide that, this way you know exactly where it came from and that it was healthy and free of all the junk that gets pumped into farmed meat. If it were me, I'd try to explain to her that it's important to you, and you'll have limited chances to do it with the help that this coworker is willing to give. You may never do it again, but then at least you'll know it wasn't for you. If you do enjoy it and want to keep hunting you can talk to her about that after the first time. But either way, you'll still be the person that you currently are when you come back home. One of the things that I DO deal with that's similar (my wife likes to hunt) is her comparing me, both subconsciously and consciously to her abusive father. It's made parts of my life pretty difficult, but I live her and she's worth it. When this comes up it's usually resolved by sitting down, have a real, calm, rational conversation about it. Once she realizes that I am not, and never will be, like her father the conflict goes away most of the time. I've only been married for 6 years, so I do t have the insight that a lot of you do, but I feel like my wife and I have a good relationship despite both of our shortcomings. If she doesn't respect you and does nothing but try to control your life, then there are much deeper issues that might call for more professional help than a forum can give you. In the end, you know her, we don't. You will know the best way to talk to her. You guys married for a reason right? Maybe she needs to be reminded why she married you, and not somone like her father or uncles. You know her best, don't listen to any of us. All we can share are outside perspectives. And the ones that are disrespectful don't even merit consideration. I hope your able to work it out and get out there. I grew up in South Florida and the only "hunting" there was in my area was getting rid of racoon infestations. I moved to Alaska and took my first big game (a good sized caribou) a couple years ago. It's a lot of work (less for deer at least lol) but extremely rewarding. Everytime we eat it we remembered things from the hunt. Every time we shared meals of it with friends it would spark conversations. It was great. P. S. If she likes Indian food, try making some venison that way. Indian food deals with a lot of goat and lamb which can be pretty gamey. The spices and things that they use really cut the gameyness of the meet, and the long simmer times keep it from becoming tough. My wife doesn't care for caribou, but really likes it in Indian food. She absolutely loves moose in almost any form though [/QUOTE]
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