Strange that your bullets are .2825. Should be .284 You have me wondering about your measuring tool, what are you using?
Do you still have a few unsized fired rounds? Measure the outside diameter of the necks. Then measure the neck OD of a sized round. Finally measure the neck OD with a bullet seated. Even if your measuring tool is off you will have relative dimensions for comparison.
Most FL dies I have used will give you a .003" difference between a sized round and one seated with a bullet in it.
Report back when you have done these measurements.
A good point about measuring equipment. Setting calipers or mics based off the zero point is not the correct way although very, very common. Your measurement equipment should be set against a know standard. While it's nice to have something like a .2500 standard on hand, a .100 feeler gage of known quality would suffice. In fact, the bullets mentioned could be used.
But, in the end, it's not the absolute dimension the OP should be concerned about but the differential between measured bullet diameter and neck openning. Here's another issue. Mesuring Inside Diameter (ID) with calipers induces an error because the inside jaws have a flat surface. generally, in the diameters we're talking about in ammunition, the error is around 0.001 to .0015.
So, given that the measured bullet diameter is .2825 and case necks measure .279-.281 I am going to make an assumption that the actual differences in the diameters is running around .0000 to .0025 at best.
Measuring expander diameter can be helpful but not necessarily unless it's clearly in the bullet diameter range. In my experience, the best course is to use new or once fired cases, take your measurements and if neck friction is insufficient, no matter the actual diameter of the expander, reduce it until you get the mentioned .003 difference.
Timekiller, everyone's advice so far has been excellent. There's no doubt you'll get this figured out quickly. I hope my $0.02 didn't muddy the water.