My niece was murdered 😢

I'm so glad you're reaching out to folks and saying how you feel, that's a needed part of the process.
Forgivness was mentioned and that's good, yes we should forgive, but also look into what forgiveness is NOT. David forgave King Saul for hunting him down, didn't mean David trusted him again
Forgiveness is NOT the same as trusting, it's NOT minimizing the hurt/wrong/feelings, it's NOT removing punishment and the list goes on. Lot's of well meaning church going folks ram these and more into the word forgiveness and they only end up rubbing salt in the wounds so to speak.
 
Overkill338 said:
Thursday, we buried my grandpa, who was a Korean Veteran where he worked on P51's. Then Thursday night, my 25 y/o niece was murdered by her boyfriend, whom she was in the process of leaving. The really bad part, Virginia is so liberal now, they aren't even charging him for the child she was carrying.

I thought my 2020 has been pretty crappy, and now this really iced the cake 😔
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Appomattox man charged with second degree murder of Lynchburg woman

LYNCHBURG, Va. (WSET)-- The Lynchburg Police Department is investigating a homicide that occurred on Thursday, Sept. 17. LPD says at 11:26 p. m. on Thursday, officers responded to a call for a gunshot in the 2100 block of Pocahontas Street. LPD says at 11:26 p. m. on Thursday, officers...
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Rest in peace sweet girl, you were taken from us way too soon, leaving 4 kids behind. I loved you dearly!

Sorry this isn't gun related, but I needed to vent.

#justiceforcansas
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Prayers for you brother....

That jackwagon will pay for his deeds here and in the next......
 
bdyal1972 said:
Prayers for you brother....

That jackwagon will pay for his deeds here and in the next......
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I've got a relative that did some hard time. He said this guy will go in bragging that he is in for a drug charge. Then it will come out that he killed a beautiful pregnant woman, and then his life will be a living hell. Thats what I'm hoping for too. He is a coward, because i was told now he shot her in the back of her head.
 
My friend, your circumstances break our hearts. As you poured out your heart, I shed tears for you. This seems a bit presumptuous on this forum, but if you all can pardon me, I'll share a few thoughts from a sermon that I delivered after a young person died in our church community. (and pardon the length...)

Though we say and believe that God is good, when tragedy comes knocking on our door and our hearts are crushed by pain, loss, and anger - we are left searching for some greater expression from God Himself to demonstrate to us that we can completely trust Him and His sovereignty. We find it at the cross! There, where any one of us would have stood and cried out in desperation "This is so wrong – God, You must stop this!" our Savior made heaven's greatest good, come out of what seemed to be earth's greatest tragedy. He showed us His heart at the cross. And it's a heart that we can trust.

Life is full of hardships, sorrows, and disappointments – this world and this flesh is under the curse of sin & death. But as our flame of hope begins to flicker and die from the pain and despair of it all, and the darkness seems about to consume us, we look up and see a glimmer of light that appears all the more brilliant midst the darkness around us. Just as awaking from a terrible dream with the realization that the dream wasn't reality makes us appreciate reality more – so it is that the hardships and anguish of life will be caught up into the glory that is to come in such a way that they will make the glory all the greater for having once been broken!

"O Father – the Way, the Truth, and the Life - we stagger to Thee under a weight of grief and anger we can hardly bear. We confess that we so often lose sight of the things that really matter. That we too often get distracted by all the clamor & the glitter of this life, and we forget and we take for granted the things that are most important. Forgive us for our shortsightedness and for our blindness. May we allow these experiences of grief – the reminders of eternity – to stir us to consider the end of the choices we are making today - to reorder our priorities. We thank You, O Lord, that You have entered into our sorrows – that You are acquainted with grief; and that You understand when we cry out as Mary & Martha, seeking for answers to make sense of the pain and sorrow that has befallen us. We thank You for Your willingness to suffer for us and for the abundant life that can be ours – that we sorrow not as those without hope, because there's an empty grave – the stone is rolled away – and our Savior yet lives interceding for us & preparing a place for us and for our faithful loved ones beyond the shores of this life. Father, we pray for our friend Easter and his family – and the dear little motherless children, Lord. You promised us You will be a Father unto them. May Your everlasting arms undergird them as they face the bitter weight of grief today and the agonizing journey of sorrow before them. Help them Lord to find the grace to forgive as You have forgiven us. Not so much for the sake of the evil - we know You'll take care of that - but for their own sakes, lest the root of bitterness strangle their souls. Lord, lead them as Your beloved sheep and the little lambs to green pastures and still waters. Restore their souls, O Father. Prepare a table before them in the presence of their enemies… May Your goodness and mercy follow them in this journey of pain. We thank You for showing us Your heart on the cross. Because of You, death is only a shadow. Because You live, there is life beyond the grave - a life more glorious in a place where there is no more death; no more evil; no more murderers; no more tears; where all is peace for evermore. We now commit ourselves and this dear family in faith to Your divine purposes, & for Your eternal glory.. Amen"
 
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I do not comprehend the way in which events take place during our lifetimes.
Why is it that God allows such evil to thrive and even expand into every nook and cranny?
Truly I am sorry to read your post and learn of your losses.
Your grandfather I'm certain lived a long and full life however, the loss of your 25-year-old niece( who was with child) is just plain horrific, and I hope that justice will pervail in this matter.
I for one am deeply saddened and can only leave you with this thought.
May our heavenly father allow your grandfather and niece eternal peace and you yourself easement from your losses.
God Bless you and your family!
 
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Overkill338 said:
Your words mean a lot to me. Im praying for the strength to say i forgive him, but as you said, that will not come easy. My wife and I are trying to get the kids. Do not want them going to a foster system.
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I'm just a guy with a strong shoulder to lean a good persons way to help keep them up. I'm sure you alresdy know that custody issues can be as bad if not worse in some ways as the crap you're already going through now. I can't think a better place for those kids than with you and your wife though. I'm certain you would take them as your own and would be raised right and that their mother would never be forgotten. That's the #1 thing right now is the kids. Make that your goal to help keep you going right now.
 
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