Re: Daughters new bear rifle
17 years or so back I got my youngest son a 700 Mountain Rifle in .280. He was 12 and solid, a farm boy. Still, I didn't want him to develop a flinch (I did when I was young) and I had the same concerns with weight, recoil, etc. I started him with 120 Nosler's and 4064. He was hammering groundhogs, foxes on the farm and shooting some real bragging groups from the bench. Went to 140's and 4064 for deer, same result - never a problem with recoil. A couple years later, for spring bear, I loaded some 154's and 4350. Shot well and by then didn't really bother him but he said the recoil was very noticeably heavier, as were the 4350 loads with the 140 Partitions. He's been a 1 gun guy since, though he allowed that it would be OK if I put him together a .22-250 for the truck and tractor. It's not his .280 but probably be OK for the groundhogs,foxes,yotes. He made it a point to ask for more 120 and 140 loads with 4064 for his wife before she had her own rifle. Take a look at 4064, mighty nice combination if you don't feel the need for the last bit of velocity.
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