Welcome aboard,
Sounds like you're the right kind of guy!!!! Family first and things......
Maybe ya otta think about relocating to Idaho.

Housing is booming even through the crunch in a cuppla places and its a good place to raise kids, though western PA ain't bad either. I'm orginally from Eau Claire up route 38 about 60 mi North of Pgh.
Have a good Christmas and an happy new year.