"...if I told you all I was 19 yrs old someone's got to feel sry for me >
Cricket, I'll talk to you like you're one of my grandsons; I feel sorry for you. I was 19 once too. The most encouraging thing I can say is it won't last long and you'll be over it and you'll never have to do it again!
If reloading was hard, few who do it could do it. It obviously can be dangerous but if you follow instructions and pay attention to your work you'll be as safe as any of us!
This won't be the warm fuzzy assurace about brands you would like but it's mostly those with little experience who are hung up on brands of reloading tools; old hands know the limiting factor in the quality of our ammo is our own skill, not the color of the tools you use. Fact is, all our makers provide excellant tools and if used correctly your rifle will never have a clue what brand you're using.
Best type of press for a noob is a conventional single stage and most of us stay with that forever. For large case rifle cartridges like your's, a steel/iron press like Lee's Classic Cast, Lyman's Crusher, RCBS Rock Chucker, Redding's Boss are excellant. All of them are equally strong and very well made. Actually, Lee's CC is the best deal because of it's excellant user features and great priming and clean de-priming system.
You don't have bench rifles and you aren't a bench competitor so costly dies would gain you nothing at all. Get Lee Delux die sets and you'll have both a full length resize die and a neck size die - if you ever even want to try neck sizing - plus a very good seater and a "free" shell holder.
Consider a beam scale like the lower priced RCBS or Dillon. And get a Redding or Hornady powder trickler to bring your charges to weight on the scale pan.
You will likely use coarse grained tubular powders and Lee's inexpensive little Perfect Powder Measure is about as good as they get for coarse powders.
A case tumbler is a luxury for cosmetics. IF you want one, get a Berry's/Cabelas'/Grafs' (all are the same tool) for the best unit and at a very good price. The type of tumbling media you may choose - cob or nut - really won't matter.
A 6" steel dial caliper is all a reloader needs for measuring stuff. Harbor Freight Tools have a good one for $10-12 when on sale, as they often are in Am. Rifleman and other men's magizines.
Beware those who will recommend that you need to buy the same tools they like, your need won't be the same as theirs. Also ignore the 'you get what you pay for' guys, cost does NOT equate to automatic improvement in anything but a purdy exterior!