Thanks for the tips and replies guys. I've tried the single shot break actions myself. I found myself doing things that weren't safe. Cocking the hammer when a critter came by then forgetting and walking around with a cocked rifle with no safety. Let's just say I prefer bolt actions.
I've looked at the little remingtons, vanguards, and the ruger compact. So far I like the ruger. Are there any more kid size bolt actions?
I figure the 243 is plenty for deer, and hopefully not too much for her. I won't hesitate to brake it. Thanks for the tip about the hearing prtection.